WTMFI Wednesdays #23 Sex & Music

⚤Sex & Music ♫

Sex & Music are possibly my two Favourite Things in Life. When they combine – It’s bliss.

This Weeks Questions

1. How often do you listen to music during sex? Do you wish you did it more often?
2. What are 5 songs that you love to have sex to? Why?
3. Have you ever given or received a lap dance from a professional? What about from a non-professional? Which did you prefer or which do you think you would prefer?
4. Do you find when you listen to music while you have sex, that sex generally tends to follow the rhythm of the music? Do you use that advantageously?
5. Does having music on make you feel more sexy?

BONUS QUESTION:
Do you think that you could ever strip professionally?

My Answers

1. How often do you listen to music during sex? Do you wish you did it more often?

Barely ever, Life is so much better when it has a sound track. Same thing goes for my sex life. Sadly I’ve wasted so much time fucking someone who couldn’t give a shit what I like, so no music whilst fucking. I wish music was playing constantly – and as it’s never playing when I’m having sex I sure as hell wish it was playing more often.. even just on the odd occasion would be nice!

2. What are 5 songs that you love to have sex to? Why?

Who doesn’t want to have sex to Closer by Nine Inch Nails?

I’ve also always felt Israel’s Son by Silverchair has that perfect hip rocking girl on top style bass line – it’s hard to just choose 5!!

All My Life by the Foo Fighters – just cause it shows you just how dirty his mind is (you tube won’t let me embed the original – bastards!)

East Jesus No Where by Green Day- that opening riff – & the drum line

And I have to round out my top 5 with the song that makes me want to fuck the most – ‘No one Knows‘ by Queens of the Stone Age – featuring none other than Dave Grohl on drums (surely you get the theme running through this list

And ‘If loving you is wrong’ by faithless – well who doesn’t want to either get naked or fuck after listening to that. There’s Probably a hundred more I could list… I think its the bass line that gets me!

3. Have you ever given or received a lap dance from a professional? What about from a non-professional? Which did you prefer or which do you think you would prefer?

No , never even been to a strip club let alone had a lap dance & never had an amateur one either. I’ve seen a lot of strippers are parties and such giving lap dances & more, but even that was way too long ago.

4. Do you find when you listen to music while you have sex, that sex generally tends to follow the rhythm of the music? Do you use that advantageously?

Yes, yes & more YES. I suck at keeping a good rhythm going over an extended period of time, so music is definitely a plus if I’m in control of such things. Just one of the many reasons I’ve always wanted to fuck a musician

5. Does having music on make you feel more sexy?

Music – full stop turns me on as a whole, so hell yeah – Music definitely makes me feel sexier than silence.

BONUS QUESTION:
Do you think that you could ever strip professionally?

Absolutely not, Not with this body, If I had my pre baby body – I possibly would, but there’s no way in hell I would now

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WTMFI Wednesday #22 All About Anal

Anal Explorations

“That’s Tight”

This Week’s Questions

1. What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
2. Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

BONUS QUESTION:
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

1.What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?

I’m pretty open So my thoughts on Anal… Well I’m certainly open to it, but it’s certainly something that it up to the individual. I’d written it off for years & years before I decided to give it another go.

I’ve only ever had Anal with One partner, but there was over a decade between the first period of time I when  was having Anal with him and the second time we tried, and since then I’ve lost count of the number of times we’ve done it. But the first time round it was rather painful to start with, probably because I was young, naive and doubt there was any lube involved. Second time round it’s all been intensely pleasurable because I knew exactly what I was doing & understood how it all worked thanks to Alexa and her blog the realprincessdiaries.com.

Education & understanding how my body works as well as what’s going on when you have Anal made it so much easier. I look back on my initial foray into anal & think ‘how naive’ Would you go about giving birth without understanding the physical process? Anal’s so much easier & therefore fun if you know whats going on.

For more on the what, Where And How to’s of Anal check Out these three great Posts from the Aforementioned Alexa. Start out With Preparing for your first Anal; If I had of read this all those years ago before I even tried having Anal sex I doubt there would’ve been any pain, discomfort or worry of any kind. Wether you are male or female I recommend you read it, even if it is only so that you have a better understanding of how it all works. Guys if you like the idea  of having Anal sex with a woman I suggest you bookmark it, It’s helped at least one of my mates to venture into previously uncharted territory.

Enema’s and More on Anal Sex is like the secondary level of your Anal education from Alexa

Even now, re-reading it after turning into a total butt slut, there’s much to learn on the subject and knowledge is power. What better power to have than sexual power, so even if you’ve been fucking your ass off for years you still just might learn something.These two are the Main Anal articles on her site, but there are plenty more Anal Sex Posts on her blog - If you want to try out Anal read as much as you can both on her site and others.

2.Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?

Yeah, I honestly do. But I enjoy anal immensely and I watch a lot of Double Penetration Porn, I guess because it’s number 1 on my Sexual Bucket List.

But it’s Also Anal Porn that bothers me the most. It is simply not safe to do ATM or Ass To Mouth, I hate that it makes it seem in anyway acceptable and that it gives some the impression that they can request to stick their dick in your mouth after it’s come out of your ass. Same goes with Vaginal sex after Anal. There’s all kinds of bacteria up your ass, stuff you really don’t want in your Vag, I can only imagine the kinds of infections that could lead to. If you want to do Anal then stick it in another hole, wrap that dick in a condom for fuck’s sake.

3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?

The very, very first time I had Anal was about 15 years ago when I was 16. I must admit it was painful and only slightly pleasurable. I was doing it because he wanted to. The thought of needing, let alone using lube never crossed my mind, If we had used lube I doubt it would’ve been painful. If I knew than what I know know in regards to Anal sex I’m sure it would’ve been a hit & there wouldn’t have been a decade & a half between Anal Adventures.

I was scared to try it after my son was born, sadly haemorrhoids often develop during pregnancy as well as during the pushing part of the birthing experience. I got off pretty lightly in that department, but still it was an issue in my mind (I’ve found my mind is sometimes my worst enemy when it comes to sexual pleasure)

I also suffer from Endometriosis, a condition where the lining of the uterus (the Endometrium) decides to take up residence in places it really shouldn’t. My case is on the extreme end with it gluing all my pelvic organs together and deciding to migrate to both my lungs and the inside of my rectum and bowel. Don’t ask me how the heck it gets in such places, I just know it’s there and it causes me all sorts of issues. I was really worried about tearing things that might be stuck together, but some logical thought made me realise if something can come out without tearing anything, surely something could go back in.

So with Education, Information, Awareness of my own body & the all important lube, second time round Anal has been nothing but an absolute joy.

4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?

I do, I have a stunning crystal Delights Plug I scored out of my sister, and also really enjoy my Glass Wand for Anal Play. When it comes to Anal Play with sex toys the toy MUST have some sort of flared base to ensure that it doesn’t slip inside – which would lead you to an embarrassing trip to the hospital to have it removed. Similar warning regarding Large toys and Anal Play. Unlike the Vagina the Rectum Doesn’t really stretch. You can gradually stretch what feels comfortable being inserted, but it isn’t going to stretch in length. Respect that fact, and the fact that pain means something is not right and you shouldn’t have any problems.

5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

In no way do I recommend or condone having un-safe sex, especially un-safe Anal sex as there is a higher risk of contracting an STD such as HIV via Anal sex than Vaginal Sex. However most often My Anal Adventures have all been bareback – but also with the same monogamous partner I was with for 15 years. If ever I were to have Anal, or any form of penetrative sex with someone else there would most certainly be a condom involved.

Second time round we were using condoms for Anal until I was comfortable with it (they seemed to cause less friction & discomfort on entry), but that soon ended. It’s also important to use condoms with sex toys used for Anal Play unless they are able to be fully disinfected and sterilised like glass.

Bonus Question:

What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

I don’t really give it much consideration to be truly honest.But maybe the fact that the vast majority see it as being so taboo that makes it even more alluring and of course fun.

If you Want more Info On Anal Other Articles that may be of interest or assistance include:

New To Anal Sex - on the Frisky Blog – This article on Anal includes important information regarding the two different sphincter muscles and how they work. Kind of important to Understand so you don’t go hurting yourself by trying to go to fast, or trying to insert anything too big.

Anal sex from the library @ Rotten.com

And as much as it pains me to link to this site, they do have a rather good guide to Anal Sex Toys and Anal Play from the site that has become known for being the sex shop you can’t trust

Unless you are thinking about some full on Anal play I wouldn’t recommend you read this Article, but if you are looking to push your Anal Boundaries, this post could save you from serious damage & in extreme cases death. Sometimes Anal Play can go too far

Scavenger Hunt – Truck & Petrol Pump

I Flashed My Boobs

I mentioned Sapio Slut’s Scavenger hunt in my last Weekend Reading post and ever since I first discovered it I’ve really wanted to take part. I don’t have the body to flaunt like Sapio Slut Does, nor do I have the Sexy Self Esteem Of Curvaceous Dee, but I still managed to flash my boobs in public places… Twice!

First time was In front of X’s Truck Last Sunday Night – I live no where near a train line & even if I did I’d never get on one. I’ve been phobic of trains since my brother got killed by one when I was 8 – So Road Train Will Just have to do.

The Truck

And I guess I can’t put it off much longer…

Then On Tuesday Night I went And met him out at the truck Stop on the highway and was in the position to flash my boobs at the Petrol Pump.I wasn’t scared to ‘flash’ at the world, there were only a few truck drivers around, and a camera that fed into the service station, but I didn’t care because I didn’t need to go in there. Once he had finished filling up we were moving to the other end of the truck stop to fuck.

Then I offered to climb up and clean his windows for him, hoping to get the perfect shot of my ass for my Wanton Wednesday Post. Once I climbed up the side of the open Bonnet He passed me the squidgey Window washing thing and I started washing the drivers side of the windscreen whilst telling him to get the right photo (I had my skirt hiked up so my ass was half on show.

“You have to..Ughhhh” he says and puts the camera down, climbs up shaking his head at me & pulls the windscreen wiper away from the windscreen.

I finished and half climbed down, half fell down and he went to put the bonnet back up.

“Crunch” & I get the ‘what the fuck have you done now Violet’ look.

He Put the Friggen Windscreen Wiper down, he should’ve put it back. It got snapped and I got sent in to buy electrical tape from the servo. Inside were five truckers all talking to the guy behind the counter, all of whom were standing around the monitor that caught me flashing my boobs. I could’ve died. I’m a whore on the inside. but so shy on the outside!

Anyways here’s the pic from the petrol pump.

I think that I should now qualify for some scavenger hunt award love…even if I didn’t get it all off – It’s Winter here in Australia you know.

So Now that I’ve struck up the courage to both take the photos AND publish them – How about you join in the Scavenger hunt fun too?

Violetxx

Weekend Reading

Sexy Blogging Fun

If you are a regular reader of my blog you should know I absolutely Love sexual memes, and regularly participate in  WTMFI Wednesdays – even if some of my posts come out a few days late! But this weekly sexual meme run by Valerie Rayne over on the Rantings Network are merely the tip of the iceberg for those who like a bit of sexy blogging fun.

This weeks Weekend Reading List is all about sexual memes in one form or another. Things that let you show off that uninhibited exhibitionist side, whilst playing the ‘game’ with other bloggers and participants. Some of these have been around a while and are well known, others maybe not so well known, but they should be as they sound so much fun! A few I’ve participated in, whilst others I plan to… hopefully in the not to distant future. I hope you’ll join me and take part too.

Wanton Wednesdays

Plays on the rule of K.I.S.S – keep is simple & sexy – Post your Provocative Promiscuous and Somehow sexually Suggestive Photos of yourself every Wednesday, then visit Wanton Wednesdays. Grab the Wanton Wednesdays Banner to post along with your picture and comment so you can share your Wanton Wednesday Wonders with all the other participants. I can hardly wait for X to get home and pull the Camera Out, getting as many photos as I can so that I don’t have to wait on him to come home for me to take part each week. Wanton Wednesdays is brought to you by the very Delicious and Sexy Dangerous Lilly – who’s also the wonder woman behind E Lust as well as other amazing sex blogging things!

E Lust

On that note, If you are a Blogger writing about all things Sexual and Erotic you certainly should take a look at E Lust, whether it is to submit a post or just to get some sensual inspiration for your next post, You are sure to find something lustful to enjoy at E Lust. Even if you aren’t a blogger you may still enjoy signing up for this B-Weekly Ezine

Half Nekkid Thursday

Every Thursday you can get part, or all of your kit off (within reason – check the HNT guidelines first if you are unsure) and celebrate your beauty & Nekkid’ness. Yes it’s Half ‘NEKKID’ Thursday, not naked!! It’s popular, and certainly fun to participate in or simply just observe. Visit the home of HNT to grab yourself a Half Nekkid Thursday Button for your HNT Post, check out the guidelines and then start snapping away with your Camera – trust me it is great fun, and a very simple & easy way to add a little extra spice if things are a little stale with your partner!

The Other HNT:

If you wish for your Half Nekkid Thursday Photos to stay anonymous, or if you don’t already have your own blog to post them on, you can send them in and have the ‘ other HNT‘  post them for you.

Sapio Slut’s Scavenger Hunt

Inspired by VoyeurWeb.com’s Scavenger hunt Sapio Slut has begun her own Scavenger Hunt, which in order to participate you need to get your gear off, or at least half of it, and get your photo taken in a number of interesting places. Such as your local sex shop, A Church, the beach, or Even at The Petrol Pump!  So get out, get it off and get yourself a Scavenger Hunt Award for your bold nudity.

I whipped my shirt off in public last night for my first entry into the scavenger hunt. I was so buzzed afterwards I had trouble sleeping! – Just be at least a little wary when getting your gear off in Public Places, you don’t want kids or those who may be offended to ‘accidentally’ see you in all your naked glory! Don’t go getting yourself arrested. Take a look at how other participants like  Curvaceous Dee have participated in a sensible, child safe way, just as Sapio Slut did by asking for permission before she de-robed inside her favourite sex shop. I can’t see myself ever being game enough to flash my flesh inside a sex store, or any store for that matter, but in my opinion It doesn’t matter if you get it all off, as long as you have fun and you push your own boundaries It’s all great! – Although I’ve got the photos, I’m still working on getting up the courage to post them.

As for other memes you may like there’s also TMI Tuesday, but they haven’t released a new round of questions since their CELEB edition, but it’s still fun to share too much information about yourself using posts from their archives. As well as Friday Fill-ins – although it isn’t particularly sexy – you may still just enjoy it, especially if you’ve got a bit of writer’s – or rather Blogger’s Block and are in need of a little inspiration.

If you know of Any other similar fun activities to take part in please do comment, as I’m sure that at least one other person will want to know about it and take part too.

And Finally this Weeks Sex Toy Give Aways

Not So Vanilla is celebrating her blog’s first Anniversary by giving away a $100 gift Voucher from Fascinations fun

Comment, Tweet & blog your way to $100 worth of sexy goodness from Fascinations Fun! Personally I want it either to go towards getting a ‘Delight’ from the Fun Factory, or possibly use it to host my own give away, depending on how generous I feel…If I win!

❤Congratulations Not So Vanilla on your first Blog Anniversary❤

Misadventures & Masturbation – aka @TacoDoom – What a Name! Anyway Misadventures & Masturbation are hosting the ‘Give Away O Doom‘ in which you can score yourself a bottle of liquid silk lube. Just follow, tweet, comment and blog your way to the prize..you know the drill.

Babeland.com are Giving away a 24 K Gold, Diamond Encrusted Vibrator from Jimmy Jane. This $2750 Sex Toy could be yours by simply signing up for Babeland’s Newsletter. You have up until the very end of August, With a winner being announced by Babeland on September 1st 2010. Whilst you are over there please visit their Come for a Cause page. Where for a $5 donation you will receive a free bottle of Jimmy Jane Beyond Euphoric Massage Lotion – no other purchase necessary, or If you make a $5 donation whilst purchasing a Jimmy Jane Product for over $75 you will receive a free Jimmy Jane Ember Candle. So Come for a Cause and help raise funds for SEICUS- Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States.

Would You Rather – WTMFI Week#20

“WOULD YOU RATHER…”

WTMFI Wednesdays Week #20

I’ve been putting off answering this weeks Questions, to say they make me squirm is an understatement… As my Answers depend on the situation, or rather the sexual partner. My answer’s relating to X are the polar opposite to what I would answer regarding -B. A conundrum that’s spun me into a bit of a sexual existential dilemma, but it is one that has been brewing since I had to say goodbye to -B (or at least the B part of the friendship) and I have started to consider what I want out of a FWB or NSA sexual relationship. I’ve even got X to the point where he is liking the idea of the MFM threesome more & more, yet I really am confused and don’t know what I want.

The other afternoon I had a long chat with one of my bestest mates, an ex from a million years ago. My one true love lol. He was that perfect summer romance,, a guy that truly treated me like a queen until the day he had to return home. I’ll tell you more about him one day, I’m hoping to get to see him sooner or later..anyway back to our discussion. It was a bit of a loveless sex Vs sexless love kind of debate. We both came down on the loveless sex side of things, but with conditions… No we won’t be having sex together…EVER – our time came & went and it is a beautiful love bubble I never wish to taint (although neither of us know why we never did fuck?? we certainly weren’t virgins)

I guess I’m a bit used to loveless sex as I don’t feel the love in the sex with X, nor was there love with -B, but that’s not to say I’m crossing the possibility of love off  my list of future hopes, It just isn’t a priority right now. However I do like to love the person I’m with whilst I’m fucking them – which is one of the conditions my perfect summer love mate & I decided upon.

Loveless sex is great, but you do need to know the person, you don’t need to be friends, but as long as you know them sexually & are comfortable to express yourself sexually then all is good. (I never got to that able to let go & really express myself point with -B). It needs to be something more than a random fuck, a one night stand or even just a booty call, but certainly less attachment than even a casual dating style relationship.

When I’m with someone  like, let’s say it’s an overnight type interlude – during that night I want to be able to love that person, touch them, fondle them, kiss them, spoil them, please them and really get them off. I guess you could liken it to a prostitute offering a GFE or ‘Girl Friend Experience’ style service to a regular client. Actually Yeah, that’s exactly what I want…

Someone I can spend time with holed up in a hotel room, loving them, fucking them,ordering room service with them & maybe even watching a movie together. Both completely wrapped up in each other…until check out time when we go our separate ways and return to our normal lives. Staying in touch with an email here or there, or a text or two every few days to a week, all depending on your combined schedules. I like the idea of staying in touch simply to drive each other wild so that the moment you see one another you just want to rip their clothes off.

So if there’s any guy out there somewhere between say Newcastle and Lismore & you’re interested…email me lol. Anyway back to our usual WTMFI Programming…

This Week’s Questions

1. Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?
2. Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?
3. Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?
4. Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?
5. Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

BONUS QUESTION:
Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

My Answers;

Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?

Well If we aren’t including foreplay…I guess I’d say a good hard quick fuck – with lots of foreplay… at least during the week with really long, leisurely sex on the weekends. I want it all!

Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?

Definitely them. It’s important to me that they get off, as long as I get that craving for being penetrated fed, I’m happy not to cum.

Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?

This is the question that caused me the greatest dilemma. I’d have to say the super intense but completely meaningless sex at the moment, but if I were in love I’d want that deep connecting, souls entwined, don’t realise 2 hours have passed passionate personal sex.

Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?

The more foreplay and less sex, I’ve been doing the ‘skip the foreplay, please just fuck me’ style sex for far too long so I have to choose more foreplay.

Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

Either, I’m truly not fussed, but I do enjoy being able to just go ‘aahhh’ afterwards & having a smoke.

BONUS QUESTION:

Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

Can I have a bit of both? I’m a filthy dirty talker at times, but saying I love what you are doing to me, I need you so bad – well It doesn’t require love to say such things… so Im up for all of it, or even silence.

I think I’m going through a very experimental phase in my sexual life right now. Just wish I was exploring such things with someone I didn’t know so well. After half your life it does tend to become boring & bland no matter how great the sex is.

So after all that, what do I really want? I want an exact replica of -B, but maybe one who lives closer and talks more lol

Violetxx

WTMFI Wednesdays #19 For Couples

Couple’s Retreat – Week 19

Like all ‘WTMFI Wednesdays’ this weeks sexual Information Over share has a theme, last weeks was ‘For The Boys’ (which I am still adding submissions to – including X’s answers so if yours aren’t up yet dont stress i’ll get them up) & this Week the theme is ‘Couple’s Retreat‘

Do you want to take part -> If you have your own blog just click the WTMFI icon below & participate. Don’t have a blog? You Can Answer by commenting! So let’s get to it…

“And I Will Always Love You”

This Week’s Questions

1. How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?
2. What’s your favorite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?
3. What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?
4. What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?
5. What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?

BONUS QUESTION:
Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

My Answers:

So I may be in a relationship ‘grey Area’ currently with X, but after the best part of 15 years It’s the only relationship I can comment on, & despite its many faults, it’s a relationship that’s currently working. I should be able to add his answers when he gets home on the weekend.

How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?

We first met – very briefly as I was walking into a house (that was actually an office) & he was walking out. It was a place called St George Youth Housing @ Brighton Le Sands in Sydney. It was 1995, I was 16, he was 19.

I ended up moving into a house under the housing project, whilst X was already living in another. He was paying his rent that first day I said ‘hi’ to him – I was wearing a dyed lace nightie or petticoat, whatever you call the things they used to wear under dresses, and knee high lace up boots. I was HOT! so hot that my simple ‘hi’ earnt me a slot in his spank bank before he even knew my name lol!

A month or two later my friend Crystal came to live in the same housing program and was in a unit (that was the downstairs half of a two level building) just up the rd from my place. We spent a lot of time hanging out & I got to know her room-mates Lena & Rachel. Rachel had a friend called Esther – who looked so much like me people thought we were identical twins – only she was quite overweight and my hip bones stuck out! She’s my Doppelganger.

Esther’s boyfriend Tom lived above Crystal in the same housing program. One Saturday we were hanging around out the front of the house & Tom’s flatmate was in the group. All hip & cool wearing a black beanie, dark glasses and a blue flanno tied around his waist, leaning back on the bonnet of his Car. It was X. The group of us spent the day hanging out.

Sunday I know I spent the night on the couch at X & tom’s – My flat mate creeped me out. We watched Gorilla’s in the mist together curled up on the couch. I think tuesday & wednesday were in his single bed.

Thursday he took me to his Mum’s for dinner – I was vegetarian and asked If I’d like some Salmon instead of chops – then upturned a can of Salmon onto my plate…hmm lol. We then went shopping at Miranda Fair. I bought a glow in the Dark ZVinyl copy of the first Foo Fighters single (that’s how long ago it was.)

That night we fucked like bunnies – the only time I’ve waited any period of time between meeting someone, kissing them & fucking them. He later admitted it was only meant to be a one night stand, but I moved in and never left!

Both Esther )whom X had previously had a one night stand with) & Rachel… Tom too for that matter all told me to stay away from him. Very glad I didn’t listen. No matter how bad things were or get – my son is worth it all.

What’s your favourite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?

Favourite: He works hard & supports our ‘family. Least Favourite: I don’t think the internet’s big enough to answer – but -> Not lifting the seat to pee, never picking up anything after himself & using a roll of toilet paper for blowing his nose & sticking the used bits into the core -> he will steal the roll thats on the holder rather than grabbing a fresh one as well which fucking drives me insane!

What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?

Be Passionate. Kiss Me, Hold Me, Love Me – & go down on me!  As for Non sexually – simply be kind considerate, respectful & grateful, but none of these things are going to happen with X.

What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?

I love them – He hates them – therefore they don’t exist they never have…except I always kiss him goodbye when he goes on the road – but that’s more due to ritual at times rather than as a pda.

What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?
We’ve done pretty much everything together, so it’s hard to say which thing was the kinkiest as it depends on the type of kink! And we’ve tried an awful lot of different kinks – but perhaps the live web cam sex, or acting out his rape fantasy I guess. I’m pretty much up for anything so if he finds himself curious about something he just tells me – never had a threesome though. He loves the idea but I know his jealousy would destroy it.

when hope is non-existent by ~innocent-greed on deviantART

BONUS QUESTION:

Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

Considering that even when we do break up, we end up stuck with each other – I have to say the first. He used to be my forever, I wanted to grow old with him & never ever wouldv’e considered anything but. A few issues we had earlier this year, re-ocurring arguments and deep seeded resentments that perpetually cause the same arguments & I hear the same hurtful things weekend after weekend – Unless there’s some major shift I just can’t see it lasting.

But X & I are certainly not the spontaneous kind of couple we once were. 15 years Is a fucking long time when you are only 31!

It’s a rut to deep to drill our way out of I’m afraid. And I’m sick of being hurt by his words as well as his actions – Im sure he’d say the same about me though. We stick together for our son, and I doubt that we will put up with each other once he leaves home.

So that’s it – the somewhat depressing truth about X & I – it is what it is.

Violet xx

PS – don;t forget you too can take part, if you dont have a blog you can comment on this post or email me your answers.

WTMFI Wednesdays #18

For The Boys

As I am not a boy I’ve had to shout out to my wonderful twitter Followers & fellow sex blogging boys to get some help With this weeks Way Too Much Information Wednesdays

For More Info On This Weekly Sex Meme you can Visit the Creator of WTMFI - you can also see all of my previous Sex Meme Posts here.

If you have a dick & would like to take part You Can Email Your Responses to me  via Scr.im/sviolet ) or just answer them as a comment & I will format & add it here. You can also put them on your own blog of course (If you have one) just let me know so I can link to you.

This Weeks Questions:

1. Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?
2. What is peeing like? Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?
3. What are you most often thinking about doing sex?
4. If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?
5. When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?

BONUS QUESTION:
Boxers or briefs?

So Who’s Agreed to be ‘my man’ for this week so Far….

B from Our Sex Secrets (BTW – B & his Fiancée M are fellow Australian Sex Bloggers) 

So B’s Answers:

Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?

Personally, I loathe my penis in it’s current state.  I would like to have an extra inch or two in length, particularly when standing to attention, but I would also like to be slightly larger in girth as well.

What is peeing like? Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?

I’m a standing kind of guy.  I have to hold it, otherwise I get my pants and the toilet all wet, and that doesn’t feel/look very good now does it??

What are you most often thinking about doing sex?

Since I haven’t had sex in quite some time, it hard to know exactly what I think about sex, however, if I were to be having sex, I would probably be thinking about how best to get the girl off, what position we would use next, and where.

If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?

One body part ay?  I think that would have to be my body, I really don’t like the shape of it, I would personally like a slightly more toned body than I have.

When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?

Cumming too early.

Bonus Q: Boxers or briefs?

Boxers

B’s Answers are Also Available on his blog. Thank you for your help B, greatly appreciated.

Next Up We have GaryUncensored (formerly known as Dr Decadence) My fellow tweeter and blog Man @ GaryUncensored - thank you for Answering as well as posting on your blog Hope you will participate in future WTMFI Wednesdays!

Gary’s Answers:

Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?

I love my penis!  He and I have been really good friends for a long time.  We’ve been through alot together.  I’ve generally been OK with my size, because I’m a big guy.  I’m not gonna say how big my cock is, but trust me, I’ve had no complaints.  I’m 6’5″, have big hands and wear size 13 shoes.  You figure it out.

What is peeing like?

Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?
Peeing freakin’ rocks!  I love to pee, and I try to do it several times each day.  I stand, of course…what’s that supposed to mean?  Usually, I just let my cock dangle when I pee, because I like to freestyle.  That’s how I roll.  And of course I am, I’m not a damn slob.

What are you most often thinking about doing sex?
During sex, I most often think about what I can do next to please my partner.  I get off on hearing a woman orgasm – that excites me alot.  So I’m always plotting my next move to help her achieve that.  Sometimes I also think about whether or not I left the oven on.

If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?
My tummy.  Like alot of men, I have fallen victim to getting a bit of a round tummy.  I’m not morbidly obese, but I have a little too much stomach.  Fortunately, that can be changed.  I just have to find the motivation to change it.  I plan to start working on that next week.

When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?

OK, I know this sounds conceited as hell, but I’m not really insecure about anything.  Seriously.  I’m at an age where I’m still far from being an old man, but old enough to have been around the block a few times.  I’m pretty confident in the bedroom.  Face it, I am a pleasure machine.  I guess if I had to pick something, it would be my round belly (see answer #5).

Boxers or briefs?
Where’s the choice for “nothing”?  OK, seriously, the answer is mostly boxers.  My cock is a free spirit, and he loves to dangle loosely.  But sometimes I go with briefs.  I like to keep you guessing.<

Thanks Gary – I love that your ‘cock is a free spirit‘ that’s classic -> go visit Gary’s Answers over on his blog -> Gary Uncensored. Hope you will play again!

Next Up we have another blogging twitter’er whom I absolutely adore – Unwanted Husband. I have a real sweet spot for him. He was one of the first bloggers I connected with & I truly feel for his situation.

Unwanted Husband’s Answers:

Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?

I am happy with my penis when it is fully erect. The woman I am seeing says it is a nice thick cock. I would like it to be larger when it is flaccid (you know, a shower vs. a grower). Sometimes I do wonder what it would be like to fuck if I had 12″ and were even a little thicker.

What is peeing like? Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?

I often sit to pee. It is a combination of laziness and because the splash back places droplets of water/pee on the walls around me and that is quite gross. When standing, I grip it with one hand so that I don’t miss the bowl. Sometimes when I first start to pee the stream is split into two streams from the compression of being in my under shorts.

What are you most often thinking about doing sex?

I think about nothing but the task at hand. How best to please my partner. I listen for the sounds she makes as I am doing things to her. I look for her faces of ecstasy as she approaches climax. I focus on keeping consistent the thing that I am doing to her when I have found the spot that brings her closer and closer to cumming.

If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?

I would like a longer tongue. (My note – the best head I’ve ever gotten is from a guy who worries his tounge is too short! – Jusy FYI)

When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?

My ass. I always wonder if I am completely clean. Even thought I take steps towards keeping clean down there, there are things going on inside of the body that we cannot control. I worry that my partner will stick her finger or tongue in and find something dirty.

BONUS QUESTION:
Boxers or briefs?

I wear the tight sporty briefs.

Thank you for your Answers Unwanted Husband , and please dont worry about your tongue not being long enough. Speaking of tongues I can touch my nose with mine but anyways… lol

Another Response that’s anonymous until I hear back from him:

1. Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?

I like my penis at this point, and I usually like it more during warmer months than colder months: it hangs lower and fuller when its warm. I used to not be comfortable with my size, I thought I was too small. I’m 7 7/8″ long, 2″ wide, and 6 3/4″ in circumference, and it took me relaying those details to a gay man, and his reaction, to finally feel good about it.

2. What is peeing like? Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?

Peeing is like a stream pushing out of your bladder and out through your crotch, the penis seems to be an afterthought in that equation, all the pressure seems to come from my bladder and taint. The penis just seems like a conduit. I stand, if you let it dangle, you may have a loose fire hose situation on your hands, unless its hanging thick with blood. Aim is pretty important, no one (save for assholes) wants to make a mess.

3. What are you most often thinking about doing sex?

I’m not sure I understand the wording of this question?

4. If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?

I’m only 5’5, so I’d make my legs longer, i guess

5. When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?

Since I’m not a big guy, though I’m rather muscular, I feel insecure about not being able to make (my ex, my last sex partner, who was 5’7) feel like putty in my hands

BONUS QUESTION:
Boxers or briefs?
I don’t wear underwear, I haven’t since I was 13

Thank you my anonymous (for now at least) responder – Im sorry It’s taken so long for me to put your answers up.

Now This should be Interesting…

X’s Answers to The Questions:

Do you like your penis or hate your penis? Have you always been okay with the size or have you wanted it to be bigger/smaller?

I really like it. Sometimes I think I wish it was bigger but I have never had a complaint and it works for me

What is peeing like? Do you sit or stand? Hold it or just let it dangle about? Is aim of huge importance to you?

It’s Relieving. I Mostly stand, if im really sick or just tired I might sit down. Most of the time I just let it dangle and unless im trying 2 hit something I don’t aim (note he also fails to lift the seat as he’s sick of me whinging at him to put it back down) – but not sure what he may ‘be trying to hit’???

What are you most often thinking about doing sex?
Threesomes and blow jobs

If you could change only one part of your body, what would you change and why?
Nothing any more – (but after I told him his answer was sub par he admitted he’d change his sinuses! Hmm… they bug the crap out of him so I get it. I would’ve maybe changed him to be a little less hairy – but anyhoooo)

When having sex, what is the one thing you are most insecure about?
Again nothing I don’t care any more, I am what I am and if a woman wants to be with me she gets me the way I am.
Boxers or briefs?
breifs

Sorry I couldn’t help but add my 2cents worth to his Answers, when it comes to X I guess I’ll always be the ‘Bitchy Whinging Never Ever Happy Wife Type!)

Do You have a Penis & want to help this girl out? I need More Men!!!

Answer these 5 questions & send me your responses (as a comment or via http://scr.im/sviolet or tweet me to get my email address). And If You blog – You should join in WTMFI Wednesdays. It’s lots of fun.

Be sure to check back soon as I’ve still got some more Card carrying members of the ‘Cock Owners Club’ Sending me their Answers

Violetxx