Would You Rather – WTMFI Week#20

“WOULD YOU RATHER…”

WTMFI Wednesdays Week #20

I’ve been putting off answering this weeks Questions, to say they make me squirm is an understatement… As my Answers depend on the situation, or rather the sexual partner. My answer’s relating to X are the polar opposite to what I would answer regarding -B. A conundrum that’s spun me into a bit of a sexual existential dilemma, but it is one that has been brewing since I had to say goodbye to -B (or at least the B part of the friendship) and I have started to consider what I want out of a FWB or NSA sexual relationship. I’ve even got X to the point where he is liking the idea of the MFM threesome more & more, yet I really am confused and don’t know what I want.

The other afternoon I had a long chat with one of my bestest mates, an ex from a million years ago. My one true love lol. He was that perfect summer romance,, a guy that truly treated me like a queen until the day he had to return home. I’ll tell you more about him one day, I’m hoping to get to see him sooner or later..anyway back to our discussion. It was a bit of a loveless sex Vs sexless love kind of debate. We both came down on the loveless sex side of things, but with conditions… No we won’t be having sex together…EVER – our time came & went and it is a beautiful love bubble I never wish to taint (although neither of us know why we never did fuck?? we certainly weren’t virgins)

I guess I’m a bit used to loveless sex as I don’t feel the love in the sex with X, nor was there love with -B, but that’s not to say I’m crossing the possibility of love off  my list of future hopes, It just isn’t a priority right now. However I do like to love the person I’m with whilst I’m fucking them – which is one of the conditions my perfect summer love mate & I decided upon.

Loveless sex is great, but you do need to know the person, you don’t need to be friends, but as long as you know them sexually & are comfortable to express yourself sexually then all is good. (I never got to that able to let go & really express myself point with -B). It needs to be something more than a random fuck, a one night stand or even just a booty call, but certainly less attachment than even a casual dating style relationship.

When I’m with someone  like, let’s say it’s an overnight type interlude – during that night I want to be able to love that person, touch them, fondle them, kiss them, spoil them, please them and really get them off. I guess you could liken it to a prostitute offering a GFE or ‘Girl Friend Experience’ style service to a regular client. Actually Yeah, that’s exactly what I want…

Someone I can spend time with holed up in a hotel room, loving them, fucking them,ordering room service with them & maybe even watching a movie together. Both completely wrapped up in each other…until check out time when we go our separate ways and return to our normal lives. Staying in touch with an email here or there, or a text or two every few days to a week, all depending on your combined schedules. I like the idea of staying in touch simply to drive each other wild so that the moment you see one another you just want to rip their clothes off.

So if there’s any guy out there somewhere between say Newcastle and Lismore & you’re interested…email me lol. Anyway back to our usual WTMFI Programming…

This Week’s Questions

1. Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?
2. Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?
3. Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?
4. Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?
5. Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

BONUS QUESTION:
Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

My Answers;

Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?

Well If we aren’t including foreplay…I guess I’d say a good hard quick fuck – with lots of foreplay… at least during the week with really long, leisurely sex on the weekends. I want it all!

Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?

Definitely them. It’s important to me that they get off, as long as I get that craving for being penetrated fed, I’m happy not to cum.

Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?

This is the question that caused me the greatest dilemma. I’d have to say the super intense but completely meaningless sex at the moment, but if I were in love I’d want that deep connecting, souls entwined, don’t realise 2 hours have passed passionate personal sex.

Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?

The more foreplay and less sex, I’ve been doing the ‘skip the foreplay, please just fuck me’ style sex for far too long so I have to choose more foreplay.

Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

Either, I’m truly not fussed, but I do enjoy being able to just go ‘aahhh’ afterwards & having a smoke.

BONUS QUESTION:

Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

Can I have a bit of both? I’m a filthy dirty talker at times, but saying I love what you are doing to me, I need you so bad – well It doesn’t require love to say such things… so Im up for all of it, or even silence.

I think I’m going through a very experimental phase in my sexual life right now. Just wish I was exploring such things with someone I didn’t know so well. After half your life it does tend to become boring & bland no matter how great the sex is.

So after all that, what do I really want? I want an exact replica of -B, but maybe one who lives closer and talks more lol

Violetxx

WTMFI Wednesdays #19 For Couples

Couple’s Retreat – Week 19

Like all ‘WTMFI Wednesdays’ this weeks sexual Information Over share has a theme, last weeks was ‘For The Boys’ (which I am still adding submissions to – including X’s answers so if yours aren’t up yet dont stress i’ll get them up) & this Week the theme is ‘Couple’s Retreat‘

Do you want to take part -> If you have your own blog just click the WTMFI icon below & participate. Don’t have a blog? You Can Answer by commenting! So let’s get to it…

“And I Will Always Love You”

This Week’s Questions

1. How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?
2. What’s your favorite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?
3. What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?
4. What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?
5. What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?

BONUS QUESTION:
Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

My Answers:

So I may be in a relationship ‘grey Area’ currently with X, but after the best part of 15 years It’s the only relationship I can comment on, & despite its many faults, it’s a relationship that’s currently working. I should be able to add his answers when he gets home on the weekend.

How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?

We first met – very briefly as I was walking into a house (that was actually an office) & he was walking out. It was a place called St George Youth Housing @ Brighton Le Sands in Sydney. It was 1995, I was 16, he was 19.

I ended up moving into a house under the housing project, whilst X was already living in another. He was paying his rent that first day I said ‘hi’ to him – I was wearing a dyed lace nightie or petticoat, whatever you call the things they used to wear under dresses, and knee high lace up boots. I was HOT! so hot that my simple ‘hi’ earnt me a slot in his spank bank before he even knew my name lol!

A month or two later my friend Crystal came to live in the same housing program and was in a unit (that was the downstairs half of a two level building) just up the rd from my place. We spent a lot of time hanging out & I got to know her room-mates Lena & Rachel. Rachel had a friend called Esther – who looked so much like me people thought we were identical twins – only she was quite overweight and my hip bones stuck out! She’s my Doppelganger.

Esther’s boyfriend Tom lived above Crystal in the same housing program. One Saturday we were hanging around out the front of the house & Tom’s flatmate was in the group. All hip & cool wearing a black beanie, dark glasses and a blue flanno tied around his waist, leaning back on the bonnet of his Car. It was X. The group of us spent the day hanging out.

Sunday I know I spent the night on the couch at X & tom’s – My flat mate creeped me out. We watched Gorilla’s in the mist together curled up on the couch. I think tuesday & wednesday were in his single bed.

Thursday he took me to his Mum’s for dinner – I was vegetarian and asked If I’d like some Salmon instead of chops – then upturned a can of Salmon onto my plate…hmm lol. We then went shopping at Miranda Fair. I bought a glow in the Dark ZVinyl copy of the first Foo Fighters single (that’s how long ago it was.)

That night we fucked like bunnies – the only time I’ve waited any period of time between meeting someone, kissing them & fucking them. He later admitted it was only meant to be a one night stand, but I moved in and never left!

Both Esther )whom X had previously had a one night stand with) & Rachel… Tom too for that matter all told me to stay away from him. Very glad I didn’t listen. No matter how bad things were or get – my son is worth it all.

What’s your favourite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?

Favourite: He works hard & supports our ‘family. Least Favourite: I don’t think the internet’s big enough to answer – but -> Not lifting the seat to pee, never picking up anything after himself & using a roll of toilet paper for blowing his nose & sticking the used bits into the core -> he will steal the roll thats on the holder rather than grabbing a fresh one as well which fucking drives me insane!

What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?

Be Passionate. Kiss Me, Hold Me, Love Me – & go down on me!  As for Non sexually – simply be kind considerate, respectful & grateful, but none of these things are going to happen with X.

What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?

I love them – He hates them – therefore they don’t exist they never have…except I always kiss him goodbye when he goes on the road – but that’s more due to ritual at times rather than as a pda.

What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?
We’ve done pretty much everything together, so it’s hard to say which thing was the kinkiest as it depends on the type of kink! And we’ve tried an awful lot of different kinks – but perhaps the live web cam sex, or acting out his rape fantasy I guess. I’m pretty much up for anything so if he finds himself curious about something he just tells me – never had a threesome though. He loves the idea but I know his jealousy would destroy it.

when hope is non-existent by ~innocent-greed on deviantART

BONUS QUESTION:

Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

Considering that even when we do break up, we end up stuck with each other – I have to say the first. He used to be my forever, I wanted to grow old with him & never ever wouldv’e considered anything but. A few issues we had earlier this year, re-ocurring arguments and deep seeded resentments that perpetually cause the same arguments & I hear the same hurtful things weekend after weekend – Unless there’s some major shift I just can’t see it lasting.

But X & I are certainly not the spontaneous kind of couple we once were. 15 years Is a fucking long time when you are only 31!

It’s a rut to deep to drill our way out of I’m afraid. And I’m sick of being hurt by his words as well as his actions – Im sure he’d say the same about me though. We stick together for our son, and I doubt that we will put up with each other once he leaves home.

So that’s it – the somewhat depressing truth about X & I – it is what it is.

Violet xx

PS – don;t forget you too can take part, if you dont have a blog you can comment on this post or email me your answers.

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 15

Monogamy Isn’t a Type Of Wood

I know it’s late, but work’s been bat shit crazy lately… So this WTMFI Wednesday post is a week late, But it’s a meme, I’m not going to pass on a sexual meme….so here it is – If you want to take part Just Click on the banner below, the more the merrier!

This Week’s Questions

1. Have you ever cheated on someone? Have you ever been cheated on?
2. Do you think monogamy is really possible?
3. What has your longest relationship been? Were you faithful the entire time?
4. Would you forgive someone who cheated on you?
5. Who is the one celebrity you wouldn’t think twice about cheating on your partner with?

BONUS QUESTION:
Have you ever heard of Cuckoldry? Does it interest you?

This weeks answers:

1.Have you ever cheated on someone? Have you ever been cheated on?

Yes and Yes, In some people’s eyes I’m currently cheating on two guys, both X and FWB, depending on how you look at the picture. I should just get them both together and have a threesome!

I’ve also been cheated on at least twice by X, and FWB may have fucked others in-between our trysts, but I wouldn’t call that cheating. It’s not a committed relationship.

2.Do you think monogamy is really possible?

I do think Monogamy is possible, However if and when I enter another fully committed relationship I would be happy for it to be an open relationship as I fully support it in theory…The reality may be very different. But if you truly are in love and are having truly amazing sex that you can’t get enough of…Sure I think monogamy is possible.

3.What has your longest relationship been? Were you faithful the entire time?

Longest would be with X, almost 15 years if you don’t count all the times we’ve broken up. No I haven’t always been faithful, but I’ve never slept with anyone else when we have been together – Only when we have been on a legitimate “break” from each other and our relationship

4.Would you forgive someone who cheated on you?

Yes I would and yes I have.I’ve also been forgiven for my carnal sins.

I forgave X for having sex with some random girl in the park across the road from my home whilst I was pregnant. He also visited a brothel a few times and waited years to tell me about it. I was pissed as I had always told him he could fuck who ever he wanted to – as long as he told me about it. The delay in telling me is what pissed me off, as I’m a supporter of open relationships and marriages.

I was also forgiven by a friend when I was the cheetee – I slept with her babies daddy on numerous occasions. I knew they were kinda together and maybe fucking and that they had a baby together (I lived with my friend and her daughter). I was 15 he was 21. Luckily for both me and her she forgave me and tossed him, she’s now very very happily married with a few more great kids with her husband. I’ll never forget that she forgave me for that fuck up!

5.Who is the one celebrity you wouldn’t think twice about cheating on your partner with?

If Anyone saw my TMI Tuesdays Post, you would know my automatic response is of course, Dave Grohl. The hottest of the hottest!

BONUS QUESTION:

Have you ever heard of Cuckoldry? Does it interest you?

The normal definition of a cuckold is a married man whose wife cheats on him with or without his knowledge- wikipedia

I have heard of Cockoldry before and would love to have a partner who was into it. I could have someone to love whilst being able to fuck FWB, all with the added bonus of it turning on my beloved. Considering I’m all for non-monogamous sexual relationships it should be no surprise that I’d be interested in Cukoldry.

Another weeks Way Too Much Fucking Information Wednesday finished… But there will be another in the next 24hrs- considering that this post is a week over due (naughty violet!!)

Violetxx