WTMFI Wednesdays #23 Sex & Music

⚤Sex & Music ♫

Sex & Music are possibly my two Favourite Things in Life. When they combine – It’s bliss.

This Weeks Questions

1. How often do you listen to music during sex? Do you wish you did it more often?
2. What are 5 songs that you love to have sex to? Why?
3. Have you ever given or received a lap dance from a professional? What about from a non-professional? Which did you prefer or which do you think you would prefer?
4. Do you find when you listen to music while you have sex, that sex generally tends to follow the rhythm of the music? Do you use that advantageously?
5. Does having music on make you feel more sexy?

BONUS QUESTION:
Do you think that you could ever strip professionally?

My Answers

1. How often do you listen to music during sex? Do you wish you did it more often?

Barely ever, Life is so much better when it has a sound track. Same thing goes for my sex life. Sadly I’ve wasted so much time fucking someone who couldn’t give a shit what I like, so no music whilst fucking. I wish music was playing constantly – and as it’s never playing when I’m having sex I sure as hell wish it was playing more often.. even just on the odd occasion would be nice!

2. What are 5 songs that you love to have sex to? Why?

Who doesn’t want to have sex to Closer by Nine Inch Nails?

I’ve also always felt Israel’s Son by Silverchair has that perfect hip rocking girl on top style bass line – it’s hard to just choose 5!!

All My Life by the Foo Fighters – just cause it shows you just how dirty his mind is (you tube won’t let me embed the original – bastards!)

East Jesus No Where by Green Day- that opening riff – & the drum line

And I have to round out my top 5 with the song that makes me want to fuck the most – ‘No one Knows‘ by Queens of the Stone Age – featuring none other than Dave Grohl on drums (surely you get the theme running through this list

And ‘If loving you is wrong’ by faithless – well who doesn’t want to either get naked or fuck after listening to that. There’s Probably a hundred more I could list… I think its the bass line that gets me!

3. Have you ever given or received a lap dance from a professional? What about from a non-professional? Which did you prefer or which do you think you would prefer?

No , never even been to a strip club let alone had a lap dance & never had an amateur one either. I’ve seen a lot of strippers are parties and such giving lap dances & more, but even that was way too long ago.

4. Do you find when you listen to music while you have sex, that sex generally tends to follow the rhythm of the music? Do you use that advantageously?

Yes, yes & more YES. I suck at keeping a good rhythm going over an extended period of time, so music is definitely a plus if I’m in control of such things. Just one of the many reasons I’ve always wanted to fuck a musician

5. Does having music on make you feel more sexy?

Music – full stop turns me on as a whole, so hell yeah – Music definitely makes me feel sexier than silence.

BONUS QUESTION:
Do you think that you could ever strip professionally?

Absolutely not, Not with this body, If I had my pre baby body – I possibly would, but there’s no way in hell I would now

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WTMFI Wednesday #22 All About Anal

Anal Explorations

“That’s Tight”

This Week’s Questions

1. What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
2. Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

BONUS QUESTION:
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

1.What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?

I’m pretty open So my thoughts on Anal… Well I’m certainly open to it, but it’s certainly something that it up to the individual. I’d written it off for years & years before I decided to give it another go.

I’ve only ever had Anal with One partner, but there was over a decade between the first period of time I when  was having Anal with him and the second time we tried, and since then I’ve lost count of the number of times we’ve done it. But the first time round it was rather painful to start with, probably because I was young, naive and doubt there was any lube involved. Second time round it’s all been intensely pleasurable because I knew exactly what I was doing & understood how it all worked thanks to Alexa and her blog the realprincessdiaries.com.

Education & understanding how my body works as well as what’s going on when you have Anal made it so much easier. I look back on my initial foray into anal & think ‘how naive’ Would you go about giving birth without understanding the physical process? Anal’s so much easier & therefore fun if you know whats going on.

For more on the what, Where And How to’s of Anal check Out these three great Posts from the Aforementioned Alexa. Start out With Preparing for your first Anal; If I had of read this all those years ago before I even tried having Anal sex I doubt there would’ve been any pain, discomfort or worry of any kind. Wether you are male or female I recommend you read it, even if it is only so that you have a better understanding of how it all works. Guys if you like the idea  of having Anal sex with a woman I suggest you bookmark it, It’s helped at least one of my mates to venture into previously uncharted territory.

Enema’s and More on Anal Sex is like the secondary level of your Anal education from Alexa

Even now, re-reading it after turning into a total butt slut, there’s much to learn on the subject and knowledge is power. What better power to have than sexual power, so even if you’ve been fucking your ass off for years you still just might learn something.These two are the Main Anal articles on her site, but there are plenty more Anal Sex Posts on her blog - If you want to try out Anal read as much as you can both on her site and others.

2.Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?

Yeah, I honestly do. But I enjoy anal immensely and I watch a lot of Double Penetration Porn, I guess because it’s number 1 on my Sexual Bucket List.

But it’s Also Anal Porn that bothers me the most. It is simply not safe to do ATM or Ass To Mouth, I hate that it makes it seem in anyway acceptable and that it gives some the impression that they can request to stick their dick in your mouth after it’s come out of your ass. Same goes with Vaginal sex after Anal. There’s all kinds of bacteria up your ass, stuff you really don’t want in your Vag, I can only imagine the kinds of infections that could lead to. If you want to do Anal then stick it in another hole, wrap that dick in a condom for fuck’s sake.

3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?

The very, very first time I had Anal was about 15 years ago when I was 16. I must admit it was painful and only slightly pleasurable. I was doing it because he wanted to. The thought of needing, let alone using lube never crossed my mind, If we had used lube I doubt it would’ve been painful. If I knew than what I know know in regards to Anal sex I’m sure it would’ve been a hit & there wouldn’t have been a decade & a half between Anal Adventures.

I was scared to try it after my son was born, sadly haemorrhoids often develop during pregnancy as well as during the pushing part of the birthing experience. I got off pretty lightly in that department, but still it was an issue in my mind (I’ve found my mind is sometimes my worst enemy when it comes to sexual pleasure)

I also suffer from Endometriosis, a condition where the lining of the uterus (the Endometrium) decides to take up residence in places it really shouldn’t. My case is on the extreme end with it gluing all my pelvic organs together and deciding to migrate to both my lungs and the inside of my rectum and bowel. Don’t ask me how the heck it gets in such places, I just know it’s there and it causes me all sorts of issues. I was really worried about tearing things that might be stuck together, but some logical thought made me realise if something can come out without tearing anything, surely something could go back in.

So with Education, Information, Awareness of my own body & the all important lube, second time round Anal has been nothing but an absolute joy.

4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?

I do, I have a stunning crystal Delights Plug I scored out of my sister, and also really enjoy my Glass Wand for Anal Play. When it comes to Anal Play with sex toys the toy MUST have some sort of flared base to ensure that it doesn’t slip inside – which would lead you to an embarrassing trip to the hospital to have it removed. Similar warning regarding Large toys and Anal Play. Unlike the Vagina the Rectum Doesn’t really stretch. You can gradually stretch what feels comfortable being inserted, but it isn’t going to stretch in length. Respect that fact, and the fact that pain means something is not right and you shouldn’t have any problems.

5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

In no way do I recommend or condone having un-safe sex, especially un-safe Anal sex as there is a higher risk of contracting an STD such as HIV via Anal sex than Vaginal Sex. However most often My Anal Adventures have all been bareback – but also with the same monogamous partner I was with for 15 years. If ever I were to have Anal, or any form of penetrative sex with someone else there would most certainly be a condom involved.

Second time round we were using condoms for Anal until I was comfortable with it (they seemed to cause less friction & discomfort on entry), but that soon ended. It’s also important to use condoms with sex toys used for Anal Play unless they are able to be fully disinfected and sterilised like glass.

Bonus Question:

What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

I don’t really give it much consideration to be truly honest.But maybe the fact that the vast majority see it as being so taboo that makes it even more alluring and of course fun.

If you Want more Info On Anal Other Articles that may be of interest or assistance include:

New To Anal Sex - on the Frisky Blog – This article on Anal includes important information regarding the two different sphincter muscles and how they work. Kind of important to Understand so you don’t go hurting yourself by trying to go to fast, or trying to insert anything too big.

Anal sex from the library @ Rotten.com

And as much as it pains me to link to this site, they do have a rather good guide to Anal Sex Toys and Anal Play from the site that has become known for being the sex shop you can’t trust

Unless you are thinking about some full on Anal play I wouldn’t recommend you read this Article, but if you are looking to push your Anal Boundaries, this post could save you from serious damage & in extreme cases death. Sometimes Anal Play can go too far

WTMFI Wednesdays Week #21

All About My Feet

It’s taken me a whole week to get around to finishing this round of WTMFI Wednesdays, all because I wanted to be able to add my own photos to it – plus I’m Lazy.

“Have You Ever…”

This Week’s Questions

1. Have you ever sucked on another person’s toes? Have you ever had your toes sucked on? Which did you prefer? If you haven’t, would you like to?
2. Have you ever worshipped another person’s feet or had your feet worshipped? If you haven’t, what do you think about it?
3. Have you ever been made to lick a person’s shoe or boot, or made someone lick your shoe or boot? If you haven’t, would you?
4. Have you ever spent hours looking at pictures of feet, most likely on the internet?
5. Have you ever gotten or given a foot job?

BONUS QUESTION:
Have you ever taken pictures of your feet and made them visible to the public? Where could we find these pictures?

My Answers

1.Have you ever sucked on another person’s toes? Have you ever had your toes sucked on? Which did you prefer? If you haven’t, would you like to?

my feet are open to being worshipped

I’ve never had the opportunity to suck on someone’s toes, at least not that I can recall. X has an absolute aversion to feet (amongst many other things). Thus I’ve never had my toes sucked on, but I certainly wouldn’t say no if someone wished to do so.

2. Have you ever worshipped another person’s feet or had your feet worshipped? If you haven’t, what do you think about it?

I’ve never worshipped someone else’s feet, nor had mine worshipped. I once had an encounter that included an amazing foot rub whilst my foot rubbed against his dick under the table whilst we were having after dinner drinks with friends. I’ll never forget it. What do I think of foot worship? Not much, haven’t really considered it much before, I certainly wouldn’t complain if someone wanted to worship mine.

3.Have you ever been made to lick a person’s shoe or boot, or made someone lick your shoe or boot? If you haven’t, would you?

No & No.  I am however incredibly open when it comes to people’s sexual kinks, so If I was with someone who would get off on it I’d be a more than willing participant, submissive or dominant – I’d be happy to do whatever they enjoyed most.

4.Have you ever spent hours looking at pictures of feet, most likely on the internet?

No I never really have, although I have spent the past week trying to take photos of my feet that I like and then an hour or so today editing them, but that’s about it for me & images of feet. If you were asking about womens Underwear or ‘Panties’ (fuck I hate that word) it would be a completely different story. Those who follow me on twitter would know, I’m constantly posting pics of ‘panties’ in my sex via violet tumblr stream & tweeting them. I often waste hours & hours on tumblr looking at them & re-blogging them. Another fetish I ‘picked up’ off a previous sexual partner.

5.Have you ever gotten or given a foot job?

I’ve both given & received, but never to the point of orgasm.

And Once a guy wanted me to kind of squash his nuts with my foot whilst he went down on me…which I of course obliged.

BONUS QUESTION:

Have you ever taken pictures of your feet and made them visible to the public? Where could we find these pictures?

Last week my Answer Would’ve been no, but obviously this week the Answer is Yes. Obviously you can view them here!! – but if you have a thing for feet just comment and Ill gladly send you the 20+ Images of my feet that didn’t make it into this post, and if you’re really nice I’d be more than willing to take more.

So that’s it for my feet, but what are feet if they are without shoes? I have a very very special pair of Shoes, a pair of Doc’s. What’s so special about them? Well I’ve got a size 10 (Australian) feet so it’s often hard to find cool shoes that fit, let alone in an op shop. I scored this super rare pair of marbelled cherry red & black Doctor Marten’s for just $8 at salvo’s in Caringbah. They Rock my world and I love them to death. I’ll probably get buried in them… So here they are.

Violet xx

Weekend Reading

Sexy Blogging Fun

If you are a regular reader of my blog you should know I absolutely Love sexual memes, and regularly participate in  WTMFI Wednesdays – even if some of my posts come out a few days late! But this weekly sexual meme run by Valerie Rayne over on the Rantings Network are merely the tip of the iceberg for those who like a bit of sexy blogging fun.

This weeks Weekend Reading List is all about sexual memes in one form or another. Things that let you show off that uninhibited exhibitionist side, whilst playing the ‘game’ with other bloggers and participants. Some of these have been around a while and are well known, others maybe not so well known, but they should be as they sound so much fun! A few I’ve participated in, whilst others I plan to… hopefully in the not to distant future. I hope you’ll join me and take part too.

Wanton Wednesdays

Plays on the rule of K.I.S.S – keep is simple & sexy – Post your Provocative Promiscuous and Somehow sexually Suggestive Photos of yourself every Wednesday, then visit Wanton Wednesdays. Grab the Wanton Wednesdays Banner to post along with your picture and comment so you can share your Wanton Wednesday Wonders with all the other participants. I can hardly wait for X to get home and pull the Camera Out, getting as many photos as I can so that I don’t have to wait on him to come home for me to take part each week. Wanton Wednesdays is brought to you by the very Delicious and Sexy Dangerous Lilly – who’s also the wonder woman behind E Lust as well as other amazing sex blogging things!

E Lust

On that note, If you are a Blogger writing about all things Sexual and Erotic you certainly should take a look at E Lust, whether it is to submit a post or just to get some sensual inspiration for your next post, You are sure to find something lustful to enjoy at E Lust. Even if you aren’t a blogger you may still enjoy signing up for this B-Weekly Ezine

Half Nekkid Thursday

Every Thursday you can get part, or all of your kit off (within reason – check the HNT guidelines first if you are unsure) and celebrate your beauty & Nekkid’ness. Yes it’s Half ‘NEKKID’ Thursday, not naked!! It’s popular, and certainly fun to participate in or simply just observe. Visit the home of HNT to grab yourself a Half Nekkid Thursday Button for your HNT Post, check out the guidelines and then start snapping away with your Camera – trust me it is great fun, and a very simple & easy way to add a little extra spice if things are a little stale with your partner!

The Other HNT:

If you wish for your Half Nekkid Thursday Photos to stay anonymous, or if you don’t already have your own blog to post them on, you can send them in and have the ‘ other HNT‘  post them for you.

Sapio Slut’s Scavenger Hunt

Inspired by VoyeurWeb.com’s Scavenger hunt Sapio Slut has begun her own Scavenger Hunt, which in order to participate you need to get your gear off, or at least half of it, and get your photo taken in a number of interesting places. Such as your local sex shop, A Church, the beach, or Even at The Petrol Pump!  So get out, get it off and get yourself a Scavenger Hunt Award for your bold nudity.

I whipped my shirt off in public last night for my first entry into the scavenger hunt. I was so buzzed afterwards I had trouble sleeping! – Just be at least a little wary when getting your gear off in Public Places, you don’t want kids or those who may be offended to ‘accidentally’ see you in all your naked glory! Don’t go getting yourself arrested. Take a look at how other participants like  Curvaceous Dee have participated in a sensible, child safe way, just as Sapio Slut did by asking for permission before she de-robed inside her favourite sex shop. I can’t see myself ever being game enough to flash my flesh inside a sex store, or any store for that matter, but in my opinion It doesn’t matter if you get it all off, as long as you have fun and you push your own boundaries It’s all great! – Although I’ve got the photos, I’m still working on getting up the courage to post them.

As for other memes you may like there’s also TMI Tuesday, but they haven’t released a new round of questions since their CELEB edition, but it’s still fun to share too much information about yourself using posts from their archives. As well as Friday Fill-ins – although it isn’t particularly sexy – you may still just enjoy it, especially if you’ve got a bit of writer’s – or rather Blogger’s Block and are in need of a little inspiration.

If you know of Any other similar fun activities to take part in please do comment, as I’m sure that at least one other person will want to know about it and take part too.

And Finally this Weeks Sex Toy Give Aways

Not So Vanilla is celebrating her blog’s first Anniversary by giving away a $100 gift Voucher from Fascinations fun

Comment, Tweet & blog your way to $100 worth of sexy goodness from Fascinations Fun! Personally I want it either to go towards getting a ‘Delight’ from the Fun Factory, or possibly use it to host my own give away, depending on how generous I feel…If I win!

❤Congratulations Not So Vanilla on your first Blog Anniversary❤

Misadventures & Masturbation – aka @TacoDoom – What a Name! Anyway Misadventures & Masturbation are hosting the ‘Give Away O Doom‘ in which you can score yourself a bottle of liquid silk lube. Just follow, tweet, comment and blog your way to the prize..you know the drill.

Babeland.com are Giving away a 24 K Gold, Diamond Encrusted Vibrator from Jimmy Jane. This $2750 Sex Toy could be yours by simply signing up for Babeland’s Newsletter. You have up until the very end of August, With a winner being announced by Babeland on September 1st 2010. Whilst you are over there please visit their Come for a Cause page. Where for a $5 donation you will receive a free bottle of Jimmy Jane Beyond Euphoric Massage Lotion – no other purchase necessary, or If you make a $5 donation whilst purchasing a Jimmy Jane Product for over $75 you will receive a free Jimmy Jane Ember Candle. So Come for a Cause and help raise funds for SEICUS- Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States.

WTMFI Wednesdays #19 For Couples

Couple’s Retreat – Week 19

Like all ‘WTMFI Wednesdays’ this weeks sexual Information Over share has a theme, last weeks was ‘For The Boys’ (which I am still adding submissions to – including X’s answers so if yours aren’t up yet dont stress i’ll get them up) & this Week the theme is ‘Couple’s Retreat‘

Do you want to take part -> If you have your own blog just click the WTMFI icon below & participate. Don’t have a blog? You Can Answer by commenting! So let’s get to it…

“And I Will Always Love You”

This Week’s Questions

1. How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?
2. What’s your favorite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?
3. What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?
4. What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?
5. What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?

BONUS QUESTION:
Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

My Answers:

So I may be in a relationship ‘grey Area’ currently with X, but after the best part of 15 years It’s the only relationship I can comment on, & despite its many faults, it’s a relationship that’s currently working. I should be able to add his answers when he gets home on the weekend.

How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?

We first met – very briefly as I was walking into a house (that was actually an office) & he was walking out. It was a place called St George Youth Housing @ Brighton Le Sands in Sydney. It was 1995, I was 16, he was 19.

I ended up moving into a house under the housing project, whilst X was already living in another. He was paying his rent that first day I said ‘hi’ to him – I was wearing a dyed lace nightie or petticoat, whatever you call the things they used to wear under dresses, and knee high lace up boots. I was HOT! so hot that my simple ‘hi’ earnt me a slot in his spank bank before he even knew my name lol!

A month or two later my friend Crystal came to live in the same housing program and was in a unit (that was the downstairs half of a two level building) just up the rd from my place. We spent a lot of time hanging out & I got to know her room-mates Lena & Rachel. Rachel had a friend called Esther – who looked so much like me people thought we were identical twins – only she was quite overweight and my hip bones stuck out! She’s my Doppelganger.

Esther’s boyfriend Tom lived above Crystal in the same housing program. One Saturday we were hanging around out the front of the house & Tom’s flatmate was in the group. All hip & cool wearing a black beanie, dark glasses and a blue flanno tied around his waist, leaning back on the bonnet of his Car. It was X. The group of us spent the day hanging out.

Sunday I know I spent the night on the couch at X & tom’s – My flat mate creeped me out. We watched Gorilla’s in the mist together curled up on the couch. I think tuesday & wednesday were in his single bed.

Thursday he took me to his Mum’s for dinner – I was vegetarian and asked If I’d like some Salmon instead of chops – then upturned a can of Salmon onto my plate…hmm lol. We then went shopping at Miranda Fair. I bought a glow in the Dark ZVinyl copy of the first Foo Fighters single (that’s how long ago it was.)

That night we fucked like bunnies – the only time I’ve waited any period of time between meeting someone, kissing them & fucking them. He later admitted it was only meant to be a one night stand, but I moved in and never left!

Both Esther )whom X had previously had a one night stand with) & Rachel… Tom too for that matter all told me to stay away from him. Very glad I didn’t listen. No matter how bad things were or get – my son is worth it all.

What’s your favourite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?

Favourite: He works hard & supports our ‘family. Least Favourite: I don’t think the internet’s big enough to answer – but -> Not lifting the seat to pee, never picking up anything after himself & using a roll of toilet paper for blowing his nose & sticking the used bits into the core -> he will steal the roll thats on the holder rather than grabbing a fresh one as well which fucking drives me insane!

What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?

Be Passionate. Kiss Me, Hold Me, Love Me – & go down on me!  As for Non sexually – simply be kind considerate, respectful & grateful, but none of these things are going to happen with X.

What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?

I love them – He hates them – therefore they don’t exist they never have…except I always kiss him goodbye when he goes on the road – but that’s more due to ritual at times rather than as a pda.

What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?
We’ve done pretty much everything together, so it’s hard to say which thing was the kinkiest as it depends on the type of kink! And we’ve tried an awful lot of different kinks – but perhaps the live web cam sex, or acting out his rape fantasy I guess. I’m pretty much up for anything so if he finds himself curious about something he just tells me – never had a threesome though. He loves the idea but I know his jealousy would destroy it.

when hope is non-existent by ~innocent-greed on deviantART

BONUS QUESTION:

Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

Considering that even when we do break up, we end up stuck with each other – I have to say the first. He used to be my forever, I wanted to grow old with him & never ever wouldv’e considered anything but. A few issues we had earlier this year, re-ocurring arguments and deep seeded resentments that perpetually cause the same arguments & I hear the same hurtful things weekend after weekend – Unless there’s some major shift I just can’t see it lasting.

But X & I are certainly not the spontaneous kind of couple we once were. 15 years Is a fucking long time when you are only 31!

It’s a rut to deep to drill our way out of I’m afraid. And I’m sick of being hurt by his words as well as his actions – Im sure he’d say the same about me though. We stick together for our son, and I doubt that we will put up with each other once he leaves home.

So that’s it – the somewhat depressing truth about X & I – it is what it is.

Violet xx

PS – don;t forget you too can take part, if you dont have a blog you can comment on this post or email me your answers.